Love isn't Just about saying "I Love You" :)

Every day we read small cute articles about what love is and how we have to establish and maintain the relationships we share with the people we love and care for. They are indeed cute and bring a smile on our face when we read those articles, because we relate to them so much.

                But, have we ever paused to think about what love actually is? :-) It is definitely something very special and beautiful. Agreed. The love we have for each person around us is something unique and different for each of them. We can never show the same amount of love for all our loved ones. And never will the expression of love be in the same way. But what does LOVE mean? :-)

                There are so many people around us. We love our parents, there’s the love for our siblings, our relatives, the love we have for that special someone in our life. Love that we have for our pet dog or cat. Our love for the person next door. Each and every form of love is so special in its own way because, when we know that there is someone out there who loves us, it gives us this feeling of joy and elation. In a way, love weakens us. Why do we cry automatically when something sad and disheartening happens? It’s all because of this love J It’s because we want our loved ones to come sit with us, console us and wipe our tears when we cry and give us a hug even without asking for it :-)

                Yes, love refers to all those great times we spend with our dear ones. But it isn’t just about the happy times we share. Love is also about making up after a fight. Love isn’t just about all the right things we did; it is also about understanding where we went wrong. Love isn’t always about saying those three words- “I love you” It is more about saying “I’m sorry. It’s okay. We’ll make it through this time as well” :-)

                Love isn’t only about giving. It is also about having expectations. It’s not just about receiving. Love is more about trying to understand that, what we receive may not be packaged exactly as we want it. But, either ways it is love. And it’s okay :-)

                I learnt this in a hard way. Love is about knowing what exactly is on the other person’s mind. Even if it’s a negative thought. Most importantly, love is also about knowing that, no matter how bad we treat each other, we will jump at anyone who treats OUR loved ones badly. It’s more about loyalty and commitment. As I said earlier, it is about the feeling of “Being there” There is nothing in this world which can replace that particular feeling of “BEING LOVED”. Love is about agreeing, disagreeing and agreeing to disagree :-) And its okay.

                Finally, love is what we feel for ourselves. There are two magical words that can help us throughout all our troubles and problems. It’s as simple as saying “It’s okay”. It’s okay to feel negative about someone. It’s okay to feel naughty and mischievous at times. It’s okay to compare. Its okay to cry when you are sad and think that the whole world is coming to an end. It’s okay to feel insecure because, only out of the fear of losing someone love do you start feeling insecure. The sense of insecurity only proves that you are still human and that you too are capable of loving :-) Otherwise, what is the difference between you and the chair you sit on? :-)

                Who is perfect in this world of ours where everything today is running not because of love and affection but is actually DRIVEN out of need and necessity where love becomes JUST another need rather than being the center of our attention. In the end, just think of it. What is the use of having everything else when we don’t have someone to love and share with? :-) We love them all anyway, disregard of all their imperfections. Then why not love ourselves too? We constantly grow and improve, no doubt. But the beauty lies in loving ourselves for whom we are TODAY rather than trying to love ourselves for whom we want to be tomorrow.

                There are strange moments when I feel this angelic being, a replica of my soul in its purest form sitting next time, giving me a pat on my back saying, “It’s okay Karthik. Everything you face is temporary. Whether it be a happy moment or moment of sorrow. Tomorrow is going to be much better” :-) The same applies for all those troubled souls out there.

                Today, as I try to understand what love is, for the first time I feel, love is all those great times yes, but it is also about asking sorry about a fight and apologizing. Because in the end, its our decision to make. Which is more important? The fight or the person? :-) Love is just not about all the things we did right. It is also about trying to understand the things we did wrong.

                I know what love is. Love isn’t only about appreciating our positive attributes but also about accepting our negative attitudes and yet, loving each other irrespective of that. Love is feeling proud of ourselves both on happy days and also on sad days as well. It is about giving ourselves a hug when we feel like it :-) Above all, love is about accepting myself in totality and saying- “It’s Okay no matter what.”

            

              I may not know lots of things and probably never will know them. But I know one thing for sure. Love is and ALWAYS will be there for me till the end :-)

With Love,

Karthik